GIve Your Marriage A Funeral

Going over and over why your marriage did not work presents emotional roadblocks in allowing yourself to move forward in your life. I like the idea of giving YOUR MARRIAGE A FUNERAL to help your healing process. It is worth mourning the loss, but you also need to get on with your new life. Rehashing and reanalyzing your marriage is like digging up a body over and over again.

So, give it a formal ending with a service attended by your close friends and family. Publicly admit it is over, shed a few tears if you feel the need, and then close the book and look toward tomorrow as a brand new day.

Stop saying "only if," - it gets you nowhere. Focus your efforts and energy on growing as a new person, enhancing current relationships and looking toward building new one. Until you let go of your marriage and the disappointments & hostilities, you cannot move on.

You should not feel defeated or unsuccessful because your marriage did not work. The average marriage is now eleven years. Second marriages average on 7 years. Even Ann Landers, who gives advice to world on relationships, could not stay married.

So, if you find yourself in a divorce situation, do not tear yourself apart over it. Accept the pain and loss of the marriage, give it a funeral, and look to your new future.